Brain: No. Don’t do that thing you feel like it’s important to do. It will be fine. The world won’t stop spinning.
Also brain: You should feel horrible about not doing that thing! Now everyone is going to be disappointed in you and they’ll never want to read your blog again!
I’m not saying you don’t have a right to feel fear, that’s a natural human thing. But the brain is a blob of jelly built largely on survival instincts that go back to the days of yore, when language didn’t exist.
Fear was a primal instinct we needed to survive, if say, we were being chased by a wooly mammoth. Our brain doesn’t know the difference between that fear and the fear of success or failure.
See what I’m saying?
We have to teach our brain that our fear of success and failure is not the same as our fear of being killed by a wooly mammoth, and the only way to do that is to practice good self talk and face the shit head on.
Here’s the thing, though. You shouldn’t be afraid of your story, you should embrace it and you should share it. If you share it, people will flock to you, for product or for partnership, because your story is what makes you a real ass human (shout out to my girl Debbie.) Your story is what makes you stand out from the tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands of other people who run a business just like yours.
You are the attraction in attraction marketing. Your product is not the attraction, your brand name is not the attraction. You, your personality, your story, your fascination factor is what attracts people to you and your products.
My hope is that if someone else is out there needing this message today, it reaches them.
We aren’t back there anymore. We’re here, now, in the present.
We did what we had to do to survive, that was our job.
We don’t have to drown in the shame of it any longer.If you’ve been ‘afraid to go there’ through talk therapy (CBT) or EMDR, please believe me when I say it’s probably not as bad as you imagine and definitely not as bad as whatever trauma you lived through in the first place.
You deserve to heal.
My therapist calls ‘should’ a ‘church word.’
She says we go around ‘shoulding’ ourselves all the time, and it has an unhealthy impact on our subconscious, because by saying we should be doing something that we don’t want to do, or that isn’t in our best interests, maybe because of some misplaced desire to be polite, we are telling our subconscious that our needs come last.
She said we sit around and torture ourselves, for instance, with, ‘I should really clean the bathroom.’
Well, should I? I do like it when the bathroom is clean… That makes me feel good.
But I hate doing it and it grosses me out and it hurts my back.
So, what if I hire someone else to clean the bathroom so that I feel good without having to do something I hate? That should make my subconscious happy.
I am no doctor, nor scientist, nor CBD oil expert, I am just a chronic pain patient sharing what helps me. That being said, here is what Medical News Today says about what CBD oil is, and is not:
Cannabidiol, or CBD, is one of over 60 compounds called cannabinoids. Cannabinoids are found in many plants but are most commonly linked to cannabis.
Unlike other cannabinoids such as tetrahydrocannabinol (THC), CBD does not produce a euphoric “high” or psychoactive effect. This is because CBD does not affect the same receptors as THC.
The human body has an endocannabinoid system (ECS) that receives and translates signals it receives from cannabinoids in the body. The body produces some cannabinoids on its own, which are called endocannabinoids. The ECS helps regulate functions such as sleep, immune-system responses, and pain.